Below is the article and pictures submitted by the groom to celebrate their Silver Anniversary.
Wedding is a choice,
marriage is a commitment
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be
seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart. Truly said by Helen
Keller. Similarly, wedding is not about flaunting, marriage is not about controlling,
but happiness should be felt in the heart.
If wedding is wealth then marriage is health, but the pure
Kohinoor of a family, is the wife, who is the true wealth, health, and happiness.
Wedding is a choice, marriage is a commitment and
cultivating a family is happiness. Wedding is an event, but marriage gives you
an opportunity to live your dreams. Wedding can be compared to external beauty,
but marriage to the internal beauty of understanding, respect and forgiveness.
Seems such a short time that Dancy and I are celebrating
9131 days, 300 months and 25 years of companionship on May 29, 2019. Ours is an
arranged marriage, turning obstacles into opportunities, pain to pleasure, sickness
to sunshine, fights to friendship, ego to empathy, control to caring, trauma to
trust and fear to faith.
Wedding is a creation of passion. Marriage develops purpose,
but family generates power. Relationship should never lead to a short-term infatuation,
but a marriage of lifelong happiness.
Happy marriage is all about communication, trust, faith,
transparency, forgiveness, and understanding.
Our journey through marriage is built on seven principles of
trust, love, care, forgiveness, respect, faith, and freedom. The day we got
married, it was never “I” or “ME” it was always “WE”. The moment we were
blessed with Bradly and Rohan our “WE” got transformed to “OURS”. We always
addressed ourselves as “The D’Souza Family”. We believe in practicing not
preaching. We live our lives by caring for each other not controlling. We focus
on fixing the problem not the blame.
At a very young age, Bradly and Rohan were groomed on four
principles in life, value, character, faith, and finance. Engaging, educating,
encouraging, enlightening and empowering Bradly and Rohan was our mission in
life.
Respecting, recognizing and rewarding my wife Dancy in
private and public is the simple secret to a cheerful married life. We always
reason out our differences never argue. We look, listen, learn, love and laugh
as a family. Whenever I make a mistake, I apologize to my wife and sons with
compassion. I believe making a mistake is not a mistake, making no mistake is a
mistake, repeating a mistake is a big mistake, but learning from your mistakes
to live a happy life is never a mistake.
Attending marriage counselling classes will change your life
from satisfying to delighting your spouse. I believed marriage counselling is
only for couples having differences, problems, and frictions. I was absolutely
wrong. Marriage counselling programs are informative, inspiring and incredible.
We attended a few marriage enhancing programs. In my first program, I gained a million-dollar
tip on how to keep your wife delighted not satisfied. Small things like after
coming from grocery shopping, tell your wife to go inside the house happily and
you carry all the groceries inside. Doing the dishes, laundry, chores and
vacuuming especially when your wife is not at home. I was a zero before I
attended the program but today, I am proud to say I am a hero in these matters.
Believe it or not, we never celebrated birthdays,
anniversary days or exchanged gifts on any of these auspicious dates. We live
our lives like every day is birthday, Christmas, Diwali or Thanksgiving day. Whenever
the need arises, we just do it.
Dancy said, “A family that prays together stays together, and
a family that eats together stays together.”
I believe, “WIFE” means; wonderful inspiration for ever and
not worries invited forever.
Wedding is a choice, marriage is a commitment, so divorce should
not be a solution nor an option. Marriage is always about a WIN-WIN situation.
The best way a father can express his love for his children is to love their
mother. It’s always supporting each other on strengths, weakness, opportunities,
and threats.
Focus on companionship not marriage, focus on delighting not
satisfying, focus on caring not controlling, focus on ours not mine, focus on wife
not life, then happiness is forever.
Marriage is a journey, not a destination. Like running a
marathon, it does not matter whether you crawl, walk, jog, or run. It’s not all
about winning the race, it’s about finishing it. Hence, marriage is not about winning
or losing. Love, enjoy, relish, and respect your married life. Most newlyweds
start strongly but finish poorly. God bless all newlyweds and married couples
forever.
