Marriage Tips by Yvette R. Toko #3: "Yes I love you, let me count the ways"

 This is a Guest post by Yvette R. Toko

Marriage can be a wonderful union or it can go south very quickly, when partners misunderstand one another's actions, on a regular basis. Sometimes, it can even cause you to question your partner's love for you. Author, Gary Chapman, informs us on his website about the Five Love Languages. Knowing which one(s) your partner has can make communication better between you and your spouse.  He even has a link for knowing the love language of your child.

Here are the five: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.  Who knew there are other ways besides talking to show your partner what you need and what makes you smile. 

Words of affirmation are using words that affirm other people. Actions speaks louder than words for those that like acts of service. Others feel most loved or cherished when they receive gifts.  So I guess giving gifts to appreciate your partner instead of waiting for a birthday or holiday are ideal for this person.  

Giving the other person your undivided attention goes a long way with someone whose love language is quality time.  And lastly, appropriate physical touch can also make a person feel loved.  
There is a short quiz on Chapman's website and some of the questions may make you laugh or may not be ideal to you, but make your best choice and see where you land in the field of love languages.

Hopefully, these tips help you get to know your spouse better and keep the spark in your marriage.
For more information and to take the quiz, go to and click on the words 'Discover your love language.'  

About Yvette R. Yoko
Yvette R. Toko is an author, a wife, mother, and teacher. Yvette is the founder of Healing Words with Yvette. Yvette believes in the power of words to heal. She uses words in all forms to encourage, uplift and inspire herself and others. Her most important roles are being a wife, mother, teacher and writer.
You can connect with Toko through her literary works. She is the author of Wedding Quotes of Inspiration, a wedding book filled with quotes to inspire married couples.

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