What Did You Think About Bridesmaids?

Unwana Umosen

  While picking your bridesmaids, make sure you're choosing wisely. As a selected bridesmaid, you have to be ready to make your bride happy at the end of the day. You don't want to pick someone who is uninterested in you or doesn't even want to attend your wedding. At Nigerian weddings, you also need bridesmaids to beautify your entry. Most times, it’s the “bridal train” during the reception that people wait for. While people think that’s what bridesmaids are all about, here’s a disclaimer, that it’s actually more than that.

As a bride, 

1. Keep their opinions and feelings in mind
You need all of them to agree with you. You must know if the location of your wedding is convenient for them if the time is great for them and also if they are emotionally stable to even attend your wedding. Ensure that everyone is on the same page, and there’s no bad blood between anyone because there might be chaos when trying to get things in order.

2. Plan on time
Make your wishes known to them on time. Let them know if you want a particular color of shoes for your bridesmaids to wear if you would like a specific hairstyle or a type of jewelry. It is advisable you let them know months before your wedding. This is so that they can decline if they wish, or start preparing if they are down to do as you want.

3. Remember their budgets
You can’t be making demands if you know your bridesmaids don’t have the money to do what you need to achieve. Don’t go to the best fashion designer in your city, and expect them to pay for all of it. Negotiate prices with them for everything that concerns them.

4. Provide for them
Now that they finally agreed to make it to your wedding miles away from their homes, ensure you care about their feeding and shelter. If your wedding is on a low budget, make it known, but still, cater to all of them in every way you can. It’s your responsibility to ensure they have makeup artists, all their dresses ready and everything else. Transportation to the wedding venue is also very essential. You don’t want your bridesmaids running in when your wedding party is already started.

5. Ask politely
Recently, brides share gift boxes and packages to ask their friends (or whoever) to be their bridesmaids. Yes, it’s a big deal! It’s a sign of courtesy and it is very welcoming. Someone who never dreamt of being a bridesmaid might accept just because of the way you made an approach. You need to make your request in the best way possible to get the best answers.

As a bridesmaid,

Remember to make your presence count! You can’t be a silent bridesmaid. The maid of honor/ chief bridesmaid would be in charge of the bridal shower, she needs the bridesmaids to chip in some ideas, help with some errands and make the whole process fun. You may need to add some money as well, but if you’re broke, make it known. Sometimes, the chief bridesmaid handles all the funding or the family of the bride, but always make sure you clarify.

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